The child’s need to identify and how all motivation is driven by it.
In my last post, I tried to convey to us parents the tremendous change of circumstance a baby undergoes when it finally arrives in this world.
Before it is born, it is as one with the source from which it derives, slowly developing a sense of self as it grows within the mother laying its identity entirely on her.
Once born, its only reference point is the mother, and its need for protection is attached to her completely.
From her, it learns that its needs are met with love and care. Its ever so sweet smiles emerging from the depth of its being, result in the reflective smiles of the mother. Communication using mimic emerges.
Having raised four children and busy with my fifth of just five years old, it came to me on the experiential level how deeply our children depend on a steady environment to develop into strong and healthy personalities. And in that sense; how vital it must have been for us, to develop into the human we are.
Most of us must have taken note of how stubborn toddlers hold on to their possessions, seeming insensible to us.
They see another toddler reaching out for their toy and start to cry in despair even before the little hand of their so-called “company” touches it.
To be quite honest, I have asked myself more than once why that is the case.
I mean, being in doubt of what is taking place as an adult, shows how little knowledge about such an important issue is commonly shared within our society.
Finding myself being surprised in recognition of those simple facts, experiencing a world of understanding opening up to me, I repeatedly thought there should be a compulsory education for all parents to understand their offspring correctly.
However, this excessive need to hold on to their toys also relates to their need to identify. In this manner, the little human expands its identity into the world with whatever comes their way; parents, home, siblings, toys, clothing and later on friends, style, job, social status, cars, careers etc..
By understanding our children, we learn how to understand ourselves and others!
You may still ask yourself why that is so important?
Everything depends on it!
Yes, everything, our entire later life, our capability to communicate, the impact we have on our social environment and ultimately the impact we have on the world.
See, you as a parent are holding a key position to how the story is going to end. And moreover, how the story is going to unfold.
Because we inherently want to be happy, it is happiness that produces the best results for all.
Think of your child and what you want for it. By making sure your child is happy, your own happiness is granted.
The child’s happy, you’re happy, everybody’s happy. And because of the type of vibration you’re in resonance with, happy things come your way.
It’s as simple as that!
You will find that even amongst scientists, contemplating the most sophisticated subjects, the simplest equation mostly leads to the result they’re looking for.
We can take significant influence on all outcomes by simply referring to our basic needs; and that, even though they may have been neglected early on in our lives.
Be a parent, recognise those virgin needs of your child, provide them for it, love and be loved in return. The circle will send an echo into the world around you and create a foundation from which all your lives dreams can be fulfilled.
These are the workings of the intelligence that’s manifesting the moment into existence.
And please, do me a favour, read it again if any “hitting home” is still lacking.
You know, life has not been initiated some time ago and then left to unfold without further care. No, the substance of values is regenerated as every moment passes by. The miracle is taking place right under our noses, and you are playing the lead role in your life unfolding.
Who is to tell you what is important other than you yourself based on the understanding you have of it?
Play it well, and find that your child will forward your message of love and care if you only provide to fill its most fundamental needs.
